Moving on after a breakup can be one of the hardest acts in dating. But what takes just as much inner strength and soul-searching, is deciding if you should give that old relationship another chance. Getting back together with an ex is a serious decision but sometimes it really can be the right one.
So, what do you do if your ex wants you back? How do you know you won’t get hurt again? Well you don’t. But if you’re thinking of resurrecting a dead relationship, ask yourself these 7 questions first.
Why did we break up in the first place?
Couples split up for various reasons—everything from a loss of interest to distance to an affair to emotional abuse. Whatever the reason, think hard about what it is that broke you up and whether or not it;s something you can forgive and live with.
“Remember, there is a reason that it didn’t work out the first time. Don’t go in with the same attitude expecting different results,” says relationship expert and dating coach, Hunt Ethridge.
Why do I want to get back together?
Psychotherapist and author of “Your Best Age is Now”, Dr. Robi Ludwig, says this is one of the most important questions to ask. “Are you getting back together because you’re lonely and just want to be in a relationship?” Well, there’s a red flag. Think about your reasons. They could be indicative of a deeper issue or maybe you just haven’t given yourself enough time to process the breakup.